Very shortly after my husband passed away I began speaking to a therapist once a week. We do the standard talk therapy but also we work on EMDR. In talk therapy I enjoy that she is not a friend, family member, colleague so I do not have to use any censorship when I talk with her. I can tell her things I do not feel other people can handle or understand. She helps me to process what I am feeling, what I am saying, what I am NOT saying. I am thankful for my health insurance and therapy.

EMDR is how I have been able to get up out of bed and not be paralyzed with the fear of finding my husband passed away from suicide. I will not go into a description of how he was found because I believe that doing so can be a trigger to someone else who may be experiencing a similar loss. Consider finding a therapist that specializes in EMDR for any trauma situations. I describe EMDR as a way of taking the images, feelings and thoughts associated to trauma and filing them away properly in a cabinet. They are accessible when appropriate and needed but not haunting your ever waking and sleeping moments. This allows positive or other images, feelings, and thoughts to enter instead. When that occurs you can move past your trauma and start working on your recovery.

From the website http://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ EMDR defined in layman’s terms

“EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences.”

A great image showing more on EMDR: